How INFJs Use Fe:w

ISFJs and INFJs access Si (introverted sensing) or Ni (introverted intuition) before Fe – so these processes are going to greatly influence how they use extraverted feeling, because it all is filtered through Si or Ni first. One thing that can be confusing about ISFJs and INFJs is that because of their auxiliary Fe they can often be mistaken for extroverts. They love to make people feel at ease and comfortable, and are very empathetic people. They will try to fill up empty space in conversation to try to make sure the mood is harmonious and everyone is at ease. However, they are extremely introverted and need plenty of time alone to re-charge. This can confuse people who mistakenly think they are extroverts because they talk more than other introverts. They can go from being extremely friendly and talkative to needing to abruptly excuse themselves from the commotion to be alone because they’ve drained their energy.

How ISFJs Use Fe:

ISFJs are very concerned with the harmony of the people around them. They are very generous and empathetic, and will do what they can to maintain good feelings in their environment. They use their dominant Si to remember details about what people like and need, and they will use those memories to help those around them. For example, if you were to casually mention that you loved Sour Patch Kids more than any other candy, the ISFJ would store that information away in case they need to cheer you up some time. They are usually very good at reading body language, emotions, and social cues and do what they can to alter the conversation or mood accordingly. Like ESFJs, they can often mimic body language or tone to make the person they’re with feel more related to or understood. They like to offer practical solutions to problems or help in practical ways, bringing you food if you’re sick or helping you clean your house if you’re tired, etc,.

How INFJs Use Fe:

INFJs love to make those around them feel understood and inspired. They use their dominant intuition to pick up on various small cues as to what a person is thinking or feeling inside. They are often great counselors and listeners, and don’t care to engage in small talk, although they will utilize it to make people feel at ease. INFJs want to really get into the depth of what makes someone who they are. They’re not afraid to discuss inappropriate or strange topics, and will be able to sense if someone is being phony. While ISFJs use memory to help others, INFJs use intuition – they are good at seeing through motives and social facades to the real person. Their form of helping others is less practical and more insightful. They will offer more therapeutic or inspirational help; helping you grapple with a difficult emotional problem or giving you a goal or idea to look forward to and inspire you.